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Sleep When the Baby Sleeps and Other Secrets to Postpartum Recovery

Mar 03, 2020 12:28PM
By Christa Melnyk Hines

Throughout your pregnancy, you eat the right foods, drink plenty of fluids, rest and try to keep stress to a minimum. You might think that you can relax your self-care regimen once your baby arrives, but caring for yourself should remain a top priority to ensure the health of both of you and your child.

Drink plenty of water. “The key to optimal recovery after delivery is fluid hydration with water,” says Gina Petelin, MD. “This is important for replenishing your body after significant fluid losses.”

Nourish yourself. Before the baby arrives, assemble healthy meals and stash them in your freezer. In the midst of caring for a newborn, you’ll be less likely to eat poorly when you can quickly pop a nutritious, ready-made meal into the oven or crockpot.

Also, stock up on protein-packed snacks to keep your energy up, especially if you plan to breastfeed. Choose simple, healthy snacks, such as cheese sticks, almonds, rotisserie chicken, yogurt, and energy bars.

Consult with your physician to determine how many extra calories you should be consuming each day according to your weight and activity level, including breastfeeding.

Sleep when the baby sleeps. “Those first days home from the hospital, rest, rest, rest, and spend as much time skin-to-skin with your baby as you can,” says Teresa Marshall, a birth and postpartum doula. “This will truly make for a smoother transition for baby from womb to room and for mama, as well.”

Tricia Walania, a postpartum emotional support program coordinator, says that rest is one of the best ways you can care for yourself. “Being rested helps you cope more effectively with both physical and emotional changes,” she says.

Unable to catnap? Relax with your eyes closed.

Integrate gentle exercise. Many moms are surprised that they still look pregnant after delivery. Don’t panic; that’s normal, Petelin says. Although the uterus decreases in size right away, you will still appear to be about five months pregnant when leaving the hospital. By following a healthy diet and exercising according to your doctor’s instructions, you’ll get back to your pre-pregnancy body.

Many moms enjoy group exercise activities, such as “mommy and me” yoga and Fit4Mom, which offer companionship with other moms. Walking is also beneficial. A stroll around the block on a sunny day is not only good exercise, but also does wonders for your emotional well-being and gives you a boost of vitamin D.

Take extra care if you’ve had a cesarean; gradually increase your activity level only according to your doctor’s instructions. Current recommendations include no driving the first two to three weeks postpartum and, for the first six weeks, no lifting anything that weighs more than 15 pounds.

Expect hormonal changes. Many new moms feel overwhelmed, tired, anxious, tearful, or mildly depressed. “Exhaustion, hormonal changes, and isolation after the birth of a baby may lead to what is referred to as ‘baby blues,’” Walania says. “To some degree this happens to everyone. It’s natural and not permanent.” Anxiety and depression can also be linked to thyroid issues, and low levels of iron and vitamin D.

Talk to your doctor if symptoms persist for more than two weeks. Sometimes hormonal shifts can lead to postpartum depression, a serious mood disorder that can manifest as suicidal thoughts. See postpartumdepression.org for more information. The National Suicide Prevention Hotline is 800-273-8255.

Tap your village. “I would recommend reaching out. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or just a visit,” Marshall says.

Often friends and family members are eager to assist by holding the baby or watching siblings so you have a chance to nap, shower, or run an errand.

“You have to take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of your baby,” Walania says.

While social media can help you feel connected to the outside world, nothing can quite replace a deeply satisfying conversation with a friend or a warm hug. Get together for coffee, lunch, or a walk. If your network feels inadequate, join a mothers’ group or look for parent-child gatherings in your neighborhood through Meetup.com.

The sooner you seek support, the faster you can start feeling like yourself again.

Nurture your spirit. You may be a mom now, but you aren’t only a mom. Take time to do the things that have always brought you personal fulfillment and joy, whether that’s crafting, relaxing in a warm bath, browsing at a boutique, or lunching with a friend. When you are happier and healthier, your baby will be, too. 

Christa Melnyk Hines is a nationally published writer. She and her husband are the parents of two boys.